Life-Altering Stuff

Hi all!  Quickie update  :)

Life-altering things have happened this week.  I need to check and find out what and how much I’m allowed to say, but looks as though I’m on the brink of exiting homelessness for good, so keep your fingers crossed for me!

Other than that, keeping on keeping on.  Matt’s still in Scotland, and is likely to be for about another month or so.  He’s working super hard keeping up, as always, and we’re still batting around red tape and fun things that have to be settled before we can marry or anything.  Still in love and so happy about it though, and that’s going a great ways toward keeping my spirits up.

I may have stable housing soon but will still, of course, continue advocating for homelessness, on this blog and elsewhere!  In fact, I’m glad to have recently done at least a little bit for a couple of girls on the east coast who were thrown out by their parents due to their sexual orientation, and are now living in a car in freezing weather conditions.  An appeal on Twitter brought a lot of fantastic suggestions for shelters, programs, donations, and just ways to keep warm in their current situation.  The girls wish for their names and location to remain anonymous, understandably, but I wanted to give them a shout-out on the blog and let them know that there are so many people rooting for them.  I also want to thank everybody on Twitter who reached out to help them, many mere moments after I posted the plea.

So, yep yep.  Thanks to my loyal readers for sticking around!  Also, I’m in the Guardian today, apparently.  I did this interview quite a while ago, and had assumed that it wasn’t going to go to print, since I didn’t hear back for so long.  So, an extra little bonus surprise today!


  1. your post is too vague! although it sounds promising :) i’m still rooting for you, of course. <3

    • Ha! It is promising, I swear, but I have to make sure of how much I’m allowed to say first. Don’t want to get sued or reprimanded or otherwise muck anything up!

  2. Vagueness abound! I’m glad things are looking up.

  3. Fingers crossed for you re: exiting homelessness. And its wonderful you were able to help those girls! I saw your tweets about it but living in Australia, wasn’t sure if I could provide much practical advice.

    I do send them (and you) my best wishes though. :)

  4. It’s a great article honey and I’m so pleased all the pieces of the jigsaw are coming together

  5. I just read your article in The Guardian and wanted to say how interesting I found it. You’ve obviously been very strong in the face of all that’s happened and have managed to find the positives in a bad situation. I’m pleased to read your update on your blog and that things are looking up. Good luck for the future.

  6. Lillian Carilo says:

    Bless you, as you are always in my thoughts and well wishes; that you be safe from harm, and be warm and fed.

  7. Good luck on everything! I very much admire how you have made the very best of a horrible situation. And, being an old used-to-be hippie, I totally believe in karma. Yours is great and much good will come back to you for all the good you do for others! :) )

  8. I just read the article in the Guardian and thought it was upbeat and positive despite all the problems you’ve had. I came back from a gap year traveling at Easter with my partner. When we set off (gave up our jobs, sold our house) we didn’t imagine we’d come back to a job market as difficult as it is now. Six months on and we’re extremely lucky to be living with my parents but it’s hard to keep optimistic when you’re both looking. I crave independence and to ‘do something useful again’ but am grateful that I have a supportive family network to fall back on. It’s good to share stories like this and makes me think that a) I don’t have things half as bad as others and b) bad things happen to good people.

    I’m a great believer in all things happen for a reason though and even if we don’t know it yet, we’ll look back on episodes such as this and it will all fall into place. I hope you can look back at this as a career defining moment – if you hadn’t been put into this situation, would you have started writing and become a bona fide published journalist? Good luck for the future and it sounds like things are looking up.

  9. Terry Ann says:

    So glad for you. I am now in a Christian shelter. At age 55 this is strange. I am avoided some areas and places because my high school classmates and friends are very involved and prominent people here. I volunteered in the office and had to take a call from a council member whom is a friend from way back. He did not recognize me thank goodness. We are next to a funeral home and watching the gatherings, then the line up and then the procession over and over makes one think. How many cars will be in MY procession and will I have my live and dignity back before that time come? I still have my CA Real Estate License. Hate to part with it. I am not an addict or alcoholic or mental patient who is irresponsible. I did VERY well with the money I made. I can stretch a dollar a mile. I am just waiting patiently for my disability ins. to kick in so I can get my back addressed and my fibromyalgia and THEN I can work again hopefully. When I am able I will be a volunteer here where I am and a Fantastic Fund Raiser for them as well.
    All I have to worry about now is 5000 of debts that I am current on but not for long and my car debt. Then I will be able to pay rent and help others.
    I am soooo happy for you. God is good and greatly to be praised.

  10. Don’t worry about the “vagueness”…
    All that has been happening for you since you began blogging is absolutely a good thing.
    I am absolutely thrilled for you (and Matt, of course)!
    Give Fezz a nice scratch behind the ears from me.
    - m -

  11. I read about this blog on Common Dreams and decided to come over for a look. I admire your fortitude in the face of exceedingly difficult circumstances and do wish you the best in your searches, both for housing and for employment.

    I can relate to much of what you said. I am adopted and had similar religious differences with my parents that have left us estranged now for over twenty years.

    I have also been homeless. I spent over a year without a place to call my own. During that time I also blogged (that blog no longer exists) out of Starbucks and found the experience very cathartic.

    Once again, I wish you the best. You seem to be headed in the right direction and I am sure you will thrive.

  12. B ... a different one says:

    Be very careful of US immigration visa law with respect to fiance vs. married outside of US vs …

    It’s really tricky. A misstep can cause you months of misery. Can you find a pro bono immigration lawyer to guide you through the process? I was fortunate enough to be able to pay a lawyer some money to help us … it was worth every penny! It is *really* tricky!

  13. This post is vague but good. I can’t wait for the next post to see if there’s even better news :)

  14. Bri, follow your heart and stick to your intuition…. it has served you well while you have been homeless. Don’t let that beautiful spirit of yours dim…. you have had an incredible transformative experience this last year. Keep the positive energy. Suz

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